I’ve never met a hyperbolic statement that I didn’t like.
The truth: This bit of wisdom I’m about to impart will only change your life if you allow it to. I’m just the messenger, reporting what I know, in the hope that someone will feel comforted. Or at the very least, amused.
With all of that out of the way, here it is:
No one on earth is better than you.
I can’t speak for any of the other planets because I don’t know anyone who has lived there, (Though there are a few people I wonder about. I’m looking at you, Lady Gaga.)
But seriously, stop comparing what you are against other people. No one is better than you.
Here’s the thing: no one is worse than you either.
Each person on earth, no matter what type of person they are or what they have done in their lives is equally valuable.
We may esteem the millionaires more than we value the homeless people, but in reality, they are equals. Everyone is a product of their environment, so where you live does not make you better or worse than anyone else. The circumstances in which you grew up may have been different, but your postal code or geographic origin does not make you superior.
Once a person begins the game of weighing themselves against other people, it can literally last until the end of their lives.
You may be more organized than me, but I have a better memory than you.
I have a great memory, but someone else may better at applying what they know to real life. That person may be better at using what they have learned, but someone else is better at saving money.
The guy who is an excellent saver may not be a good student, and poor students often make great leaders.
Basically, everyone has a combination of talent, potential, character, and opportunity. Talent will get you in the door of a great opportunity, but if you don’t have enough character, you won’t stay there. Every person who is born has the potential to be great at something, but if they don’t have the opportunity, they will never realize their potential. Regardless of how much talent, potential, character, and opportunity we have our choices are what ultimately determine our quality of life.
That is why comparing us to others is unfair. Of course, someone who has gone to university will have better grammar than a person who did not. (Or they should) Someone who reads a lot will have a larger vocabulary than someone who does not. A person who grew up in a family of high-achievers will most likely become a high-achiever. And if a person grows up where opportunities to progress were scarce, then their journey to success will be more difficult.
In the 90s, it became en vogue to blame other people for the problems in our lives. The Baby-Boomers ruined everything. I’m not rich and successful because of my parents. My teachers didn’t give me the right guidance. I could have everything I wanted if only *that* person got out of my way.
Most of us have the power to be bigger than our circumstances. If we make the choice not to, we have to live with the consequences of that decision. No one else is to blame.
The best example I have to support my argument was given by an Australian pastor.
Imagine you have a crisp $100 bill. You see a friend of yours and say, “Hey, I have $100 for you.”(Who wouldn’t want $100?)
Naturally, your friend would take it, and say thanks. Now imagine, I found a $100 bill in a pile of cow dung. (Why I am on a farm looking for money, is anyone’s guess.)
In spite of where I found it, $100 is still $100. It retains its value, even though it is dirty and smelly.
If I washed it off, and offered it to one of my friends, he or she would still take it.
If that $100 had been originally deposited in the bank by a drug dealer, it is still $100.
It that bill had been torn in half and taped back together, it is still worth $100.
So basically, no matter where it is from, how clean or dirty it is, or who it previously belonged to, the value of a $100 bill is $100.
Sadly, we acknowledge the value of money more than we acknowledge the value of people, even though the value of a person never depreciates.
Even the worst, most vile human being on earth has basic rights. He or she may not be worth anything to us but are still important to God. (Apparently, I can’t go a day without mentioning God in some way)
The news that will change your life:
You’re not better than anyone, so stop pretending that you are.
You are not worse than anyone, so stop believing you are.
You are important just as you are. You don’t need to compare your life to anyone else because life is not a race. It isn’t a competition, and there are no prizes for “best in show”, “most likely to be remembered in 50 years”, and “most philanthropic”. (If there were, we’d all lose to someone rich and famous, anyway.) Your only true opponent is you.
Everyone else is too busy doing his or her own thing.
Comparison is a trap because it pits us against one another. We’re all competing for things that, in the end, won’t really matter.
So instead of counting someone else’s blessings, count your own. Rather than finding fault with other people, try fixing your faults. You’d be surprised how much time can be spent on trying to improve yourself instead of trying to control other people.(Hint: A lot. And it’s much more rewarding and less frustrating than the latter.)
If you see yourself as important, you will see others as important. It’s a lot easier for you to help someone else when you don’t think that you’re above them.
And no matter how, wealthy, prestigious, or intelligent they are, no one is above you either.
Think about it.